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December 8, 2015

Dos and Don’ts of Texting To Keep a Guy Interested

Video Summary

In this video Marni Battista and Christian Anderson talk about the do’s and don’t of texting and dating for quality girls.

Figure out when texting is appropriate and when it is not.

Texting is not always the way to go when communicating when you are dating. Some things need to be spoken about in person. Figure out, before you start discussing anything via text message whether you are playing in the right arena.

A quality woman can teach a man how to treat her, even when it comes to dating.

If you find that he wants to talk about everything via text message and you would rather see him in person.. TELL HIM THAT. Say ‘look, I’m a traditional kind of girl and I prefer to do this in person’. A quality guy will respect that and if he doesn’t then…

If a guy refuses to talk in person, show him the ‘peace out’ door.

If a guy only ever wants to talk via text message, then Marni suggest you show him the peace out door.. send him on his way, with peace, and if you feel like it, let him know why you are doing that. He then has a chance to pull things back here, and if he doesn’t then he wasn’t the guy for you to spend time on.

Be creative with communication – the fastest way to my heart is through my ear!

Christian once dated a girl who hated texting and she was creative with how she expressed this. She sent him a text that said ‘do you know the fastest way to my heart?’ .. and when he was intrigued she said ‘through my ear’. This said all it needed to say in a playful way and it certainly got his attention.

Texting is appropriate for ‘sound bite’ conversations.

‘I’m running late’ .. ‘I’ll meet you at 7’.. these kind of sound bites are great for texting but anything deeper and more complex than that, move it to a phone call, or meet in person.

Texting is NOT appropriate if he is asking you out… ‘later’.

If he texts you and says ‘hey wanna come out with me on Friday?’ then great, as he is forward planning. However, he would earn brownie points if he called and asked you that. If he is texting asking you out.. later (as in today, this evening), then nope – you deserve more thought and planning than that. Guys are becoming a little lazy when it comes to texting the important stuff.

Follow the ‘rule of thumb’ when it comes to the length of texts.

We’ve all heard that phrase ‘as a general rule of thumb’ right? Well when it comes to texting, any text that is longer than the size of your thumb, should be moved to a phone conversation. Short and sweet is crucial.

In general, use your initiative – as a woman YOU can set the pace when it comes to texting. If the conversation becomes heated, and things are becoming heavy, then move it from text to in person. If a guy doesn’t want to do that then show him the peace out door and keep on looking forwards. There are tons of quality guys out there.

About Marni Battista

Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, has professional training in dating and relationship coaching as well as training in the Core Energy Coaching Process from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC). A certified Life Coach through the International Coaching Federation, Marni is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment — “The D-Factor” — which helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are or are not “date-able” and what types of messages they unconsciously broadcast to men based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. To learn more about Marni, visit her website below.