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December 6, 2015

How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Chase You Again After a Breakup

In this video, Brad Browning talks about how to change the “balance of power” and get your ex to chase you.

Put yourself in a more powerful bargaining position

Stop communicating with your ex. Take a time out and don’t try to talk to them for a month or so. By doing this, your ex will realize – probably unhappily – that you will not wither up and die without them. This realization may be a surprise to both of you. Your goal is to accept the situation for what it is. You must now take steps to bring happiness to yourself by branching out and doing those things you enjoy and spending time with people who make you feel good. Your absence will communicate volumes to your ex. The very fact that you’re not calling and begging to put things back together will put you in a more powerful bargaining position since it establishes that you recognize your own value.

Remove your ex’s safety net

While your ex doesn’t want you as a permanent part of his or her life, there is probably some small reluctance to give you up entirely. Your ex probably wants to “be friends.” This means that he or she wants to keep you as a back-up plan or fall-back option just in case he or she finds single life less than wonderful. Your job in this part of the exercise is to refuse to be that secondary option. Remind yourself that you have value. You’re a fun and exciting person, not a second-rate bit player. You won’t settle for being somebody’s “friend” when you really want to be their lover. You may have to practice this state of mind in front of the mirror, but once you do it convincingly, it will serve to put your ex on notice. You’re worth more than that.


When it comes to rebuilding a broken relationship, patience is always the hardest part. Once you’ve taken the positions we discussed above, you will establish yourself as a ‘quality’ partner who is bound to be the object of attention to the countless other ‘quality’ partners out there in the dating world. Your ex will not waste much time in reaching out to you in any number of ways. When he or she does, be sure you are in firm control of your emotions. Remember, you’re fine with your life as it is. Don’t be too easy to re-capture.

Your grandmother probably told you that “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Your granny was right. Being a scarce commodity will make your ex value you more and want you back sooner rather than later.

About Brad Browning

Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.

Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.