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How To Stop Attracting the Wrong Men- Karla Downing

Interview Summary

A special thanks to Karla Downing for the summary notes.

1. Get healthy yourself no matter what it takes. This takes time and you must be committed to the process.

2. Trust the people who know you well and truly have your best interest in mind to give you feedback. Believe them when they tell you it is bad.

3. Get knowledgeable about the red flags of wrong men so you can recognize them.

4. Learn to trust your instincts and to value your intuition.

5. Believe that your feelings, thoughts, perceptions, and needs are just as valid as his.

6. Believe you are better off alone than in an unhealthy relationship.

7. Stop excusing bad behavior.

8. Work on improving your self-esteem and self-respect. This includes making choices that you respect yourself for.

9. Stop reacting to the dysfunction in ways that make you a part of the problem. This keeps you stuck and makes you vulnerable to his accusations that it is your fault.

10. Make this the last time you take “it.”

11. Learn the difference between normal versus dysfunctional and healthy versus unhealthy behavior.

12. Don’t wait for him to make decisions for you. Take back the power to control your own destiny and life.

13. Learn about how your childhood has affected you. Work through the pain so you can put it behind you.

14. Don’t offer trust until it has been earned.

15. Work through your fears so you don’t let them sabotage your future.

16. Accept that you cannot change another person. Don’t stay in the hope that you will change him.

About Karla Downing

Karla Downing

Karla Downing is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a licensed Speech Language Pathologist. Her books include 10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages, When Love Hurts: 10 Principles to Transform Difficult Relationships, and The Truth in the Mirror: A Guide to Healthy Self-Image.

To know more about Karla, visit her website