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February 28, 2016

Spending the Night With a Guy? What are the Dos and Don’ts of Sleeping Over

In this video, Matthew Hussey, a dating coach, touches on the delicate subject of what you should, and shouldn’t leave behind, after spending the night with him.

Pick Up After Yourself

Stop leaving your things behind after you spend the night with him. If done mistakenly, it’s forgivable, but the majority of the time women tend to leave things behind on purpose as a reminder of themselves or so that they have a reason to call and checkup. He wouldn’t want to feel immediately that he has an unspoken demand placed on him to get in touch. Don’t put the onus on your man to have to call you or see you again. You might think you’re being subtle in your demands, but the act of leaving things behind is so transparent.

No One Likes to Feel Obligated

Oftentimes what’s left behind has no real value. It was clearly planted and the intention behind it is totally visible. It’s seen as a ploy, and no one wants to feel obligated that they have to do something or see someone. Don’t place an onus on him to have to call you, to have to go out with you again. It suggests, on an unconscious level, that you weren’t good enough for him to decide to want to see you again. Instead of placing an obligation on him, let him sell himself on the idea of seeing you again.

Practice the Art of Subtlety

There are other, more successful and subtle ways, to leave a reminder of yourself behind. If you have a favorite fragrance, wear it tastefully. Scent is a power mechanism, as smell is a gateway to emotion and memory.

If you feel you have to leave something tangible, leave him a note. Something brief that genuinely expresses what a great time you had last night and how much you enjoyed his company. Display just a touch of vulnerability in the expression of your feelings. Don’t suggest uncertainty or desperation by demanding that he call you or saying he must see you again. Instead, end with a brief “I’ll see you soon handsome.” This ending is a lightly confidant suggestion and shows a hint of sweetness.

About Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.

Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.

To know more about Matthew Hussey, visit his website below.