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December 6, 2015

What Not To Text Your Ex Boyfriend: 6 Texts You Should Never Send Him

In this video, Brad Browning lists six messages you should never send to your ex if you want them back.

1. Don’t beg:

Begging, pleading, and promising to change will do you no good. Words won’t work. What’ you’re after has a chemical component and words are not generally useful, particularly if they bring back bad memories.

2. Don’t beat a dead horse:

Avoid all discussion about the breakup and/or what went wrong in the first place. Bringing up bad memories of the past will be of no help. Move forward in your relationship without referencing the bad old days. If you need to know what you did wrong, you may find the right time eventually. Such a time is not in the few weeks or even months after a breakup.

3. No nastiness:

No matter how intense your feelings of anger may be, don’t send hateful messages to your ex. Not only does doing such make you look like a jerk, it will make you feel like one. Worst of all, it won’t help you bridge the gap between you and it won’t help if you ever want this person back in your life, even as a friend.

4. No pointless messages:

Don’t just send a “hey…what are you doing?” message. Don’t imagine that you’ll make yourself more valuable by appearing to be so bored that you feel the need to contact somebody who is finished with you! If you want your ex to reply to your text keep it interesting. Make sure to be fun and have a legitimate reason to contact them. You want to remind them of how much fun you are to be with.

5. Don’t send multiple messages:

You don’t want to appear needy or desperate. If you send a text to which your ex doesn’t reply, leave it alone. You may want to wait a few days, maybe even a few weeks. That he or she didn’t choose to answer you says that your ex is not interested in hearing from you. (No. It doesn’t mean that he/she left the phone at home or on the charger and simply didn’t get the message. You don’t need to call her work to ask if somebody stole her phone either. If she didn’t answer, it means she doesn’t want to hear from you.)

6. No syrupy messages:

Sending a long love letter or sugary message is generally a waste of time and bandwidth. You want to avoid drama, and sending an “I cannot live without you” message, you’ll be reminding the ex of the old days and the problems that happened then.

If you want to communicate again with your ex, and if the feeling is mutual, the best way to get the ball rolling is to send fun, playful, flirty messages without the slightest hint of drama or references to the old days. You want your ex to be reminded about how interesting and amusing you can be.

About Brad Browning

Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.

Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.