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February 28, 2016

Why Being Open and Honest With Yourself Can Make a Big Difference To Your Love Life

In this video, dating coach Matthew Hussey explains why it so vital for a relationship for you to evaluate and develop an honest idea of whether you would date yourself.

List Your Standards

Would you date yourself? Before you answer this question, first take some time to write down what you want in the man you would like to be with. List the standards that you have for that person. What do you expect for his behavior, for how he treats you and your friends and family? What kind of personality do you value? What are your desires for affection? How much time, generosity, sacrifices, and growth need to be made by this man in order for the relationship to succeed? If you made a mistake, how would you want him to act? If he made a mistake, how would you want him to react?

Evaluate Yourself

When you’ve done this, take a hard look at this list. It will likely be a couple pages long. Ask yourself to what extent do you live up to each and every one of these standards? You probably wrote many of these items on this list because this is what you find attractive in a man. You now have a list of tips and clues about how you can be an attractive mate. By exposing the gaps between what you are and what you want, you now have a list of areas you can grow in. To what extent do you live up to what you want someone else to be? When you can answer this question you will know whether you would truly want to date yourself or not.

The Perfect Road Map

It’s a humbling experience to realize how far short we usually fall of how we measure everyone else. Once you have this list of standards and identify areas you can grow in, you now have a road map of how to bring value to a relationship and of how to be the ideal partner. Instead of going into a relationship with an entitled notion of what you deserve, be sure that you are going into a relationship to give value. Deliver what you expect of someone else. Have the guts to keep asking yourself the hard and honest questions.

About Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.

Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.

To know more about Matthew Hussey, visit his website below.